Turning down sex

[MoganFreeman]

I just turned down sex.
is that wierd.

The sex you have is the sex you have. If you had a reason to turn it down, it's good that you did.

 

[Bat Vader]

You have self-control, something most of the male population has lost over the years. I am a male, 21, and I am still a virgin. I hope to stay a virgin until I die.

Sounds like a challenge to me. I propose a virgin-off.

You want to see who can stay a virgin the longest? Well, considering I have never been on a date before and have very few female friends I say my chances of winning are very high.

 

[Bat Vader]

Sex is overrated.
Love, however, underrated.

I think they are both overrated. Being a virgin I have never experienced either sex or love and I hopefully never will. Love would make me a vulnerable target to be stabbed in the back and I hate being betrayed.

 

[Bat Vader]

You want to see who can stay a virgin the longest? Well, considering I have never been on a date before and have very few female friends I say my chances of winning are very high.

It's like looking at myself in a mirror.

It may end up as a tie.

 

[DragunovHUN]

erm just wondering here... but how can a man have a dry spell? i mean women can have dry spells down there...but men dont get wet!

That's what you think.

 

[incubus42]

There are only really two reasons to turn down sex. Aside from if you find them attractive. (you already said shes smoking so...)

1. She/He is a dirt-bag and may have every STI under the sun, and/or most of your friends have been with them already.

2. Sleeping with her/him could ruin the relationship you already want to maintain with them or someone else close to you. e.g don't sleep with your smoking hot secretary as it could will ruin your marriage.

I don't know but I'm guessing your situation doesn't fit into the above, so yea, I guess I think you're crazy.

Oh man, I thought of a third reason, obvious really... you don't enjoy sex. I have heard its true of 30% of the population, they're all female of course, married mostly. :S

I agree on that thought.
Somebody who has got an existing libido, no gf and knows that he directly won't screw up anything by screwing her... and still doesn't do her... hmm yeah... that honestly sounds a bit crazy.

 

[S.H.A.R.P.]

No youre not weird, its called self control. So good for not whoring yourself. I once dated a future pornstar and all my friends still get on me for not sleeping with her, just because you can have sex with someone doesnt mean you should.

Well said. Sex is a nice thing, but I always think that it's way nicer when you have 'worked' for it a bit. I always shun ladies who jump on me. It's too easy, and they probably did it with tons of other folk before.

 

[EvilMaggot]

i did not too long ago with my girlfriend... she got mad xD... i really dont know why...

 

[Xerosch]

Sex is always better when you have some kind of connection to the person you're having it with. I had enough ONS to know (for myself) that they are good for the moment, but get 'meh' on the way home.

 

[Spinozaad]

Sex is awesome.
Love is awesome too.
Sex with the one you love is probably the best thing around.

Of course, you can't -really- compare it to other 'highs' like... eh... a drug high, or the high you get when writing a wonderful phrase, or... eh... you get when beating a game. Or the high you get when in a fight.

It's the best high though, probably because it is the one thing in life you were destined to do. (From a biological point of view at least)

 

[The_root_of_all_evil]

Sex is overrated.
Love, however, underrated.

I think they are both overrated. Being a virgin I have never experienced either sex or love and I hopefully never will. Love would make me a vulnerable target to be stabbed in the back and I hate being betrayed.

Paranoia is also overrated.

 

[Tech Team FTW!]

Cool, I didn't know nihilists were supposed to have sex with everything.

More like, hell no. Good job portraying nihilism as something below "the normal" standard. I'm so offended!

Haha.

Also, nihilism would have little to do with this topic. Just because you believe that everything is pretty much pointless, in bigger picture, doesn't make you someone who "has sex with everything that moves". Well, not unless you see sex as the main point of your life.

Wait... Was that directed at me?
Don't forget the quote function.
In any case, ThrobbingEgo answerred this well enough.

 

[Sennz0r]

I haven't turned it down directly because no girl ever walked up to me one night and said "hey let's get freaky", but there have been numerous times when a girl came on to me and I turned them down. It's not like they're bad-looking or stupid (well, some of them were), but I just wasn't feeling it.
This of course made one of my friends quite pissed on a few occasions. He was always telling me to go for it and live a little. All these women are interested in you and you just turn all of them down. Well excuse me for having standards. For the record there were no complete strangers amongst any of those, I got to know all of them and I just didn't feel it.

Short answer: No, you're not weird for turning down sex, or any kind of relationship if you don't feel 100% committed to it. Just remember that turning down sex with a hot girl is just as much to brag about as actually having sex with her (if you're a notch on your bedpost type of guy that is).

Sex is overrated.
Love, however, underrated.

I think they are both overrated. Being a virgin I have never experienced either sex or love and I hopefully never will. Love would make me a vulnerable target to be stabbed in the back and I hate being betrayed.

Paranoia is also overrated.

This. A thousand times this.

 

[LooK iTz Jinjo]

You have self-control, something most of the male population has lost over the years. I am a male, 21, and I am still a virgin. I hope to stay a virgin until I die.

Sounds like a challenge to me. I propose a virgin-off.

You want to see who can stay a virgin the longest? Well, considering I have never been on a date before and have very few female friends I say my chances of winning are very high.

Why would you want to win? That's one competition I'm glad I've already lost.
Sex is great anyone who doesn't think so either has had some really poor experiences (possibly through no fault of their own) or I don't know maybe they're just gay and don't know it yet.

I'm not saying sex is be all and end all of a relationship, but it's fucking great, especially if you really do love and care about the person you're with.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Hold on, let me get my crystal ball.

Ah yes. Your future. I can see it now. You're going to end up not getting the person you're aiming for, and you'll wonder why you turned down the loving when it was flinged your way. That's how these things work, Tim.

oddly my names actually mike. lol.
but seriously in the long run im just turning down sex for more sex if you think about it...
but like this girl that i turned down is just a girl i could bang.
but the other girl actually like needs me and shes really trying, shes pretty and smart and everything too but like she been through the same shit as me something that i can bond with...
bonding with the vagina that is....just kidding
but yeah it just didnt sit in my stomach to please one person and let another down.

you know what i mean?

I know what you mean. Dude it's because you respect that other girl, and that's something you need to hold onto. That's what I use to gauge how much I like a girl.

 

[megalomania]

Sex is overrated.
Love, however, underrated.

I think they are both overrated. Being a virgin I have never experienced either sex or love and I hopefully never will. Love would make me a vulnerable target to be stabbed in the back and I hate being betrayed.

How can you say you never want to have sex, without having ever tried it? Thats like saying I don't like peanut butter without trying it.

I think I see a very thin veil of an excuse for why you are still a virgin, you don't need to make excuses to people just because its 'unusual' to still be a virgin at age X (insert your age here).

 

[Khadath]

No youre not weird, its called self control. So good for not whoring yourself. I once dated a future pornstar and all my friends still get on me for not sleeping with her, just because you can have sex with someone doesnt mean you should.

Well said. Sex is a nice thing, but I always think that it's way nicer when you have 'worked' for it a bit. I always shun ladies who jump on me. It's too easy, and they probably did it with tons of other folk before.

My thoughts exactly.

Also it's awesome to see another S.H.A.R.P. supporter, look forward to the day we're not confused for some bunch of retarded bigots.