Turning down sex

[Tech Team FTW!]

Sex is great anyone who doesn't think so either has had some really poor experiences (possibly through no fault of their own) or I don't know maybe they're just gay and don't know it yet.

Or maybe they just have a different opinion of sex.
Not everyone is ruled by their biological imperative.
Also, you're right - gay people never have sex.

Stop ninja-ing me Max.

 

[LooK iTz Jinjo]

Why would you want to win?

Because different people are, gasp, different?

That's one competition I'm glad I've already lost.

Congratulations. I am sure that took a lot of work.

Sex is great anyone who doesn't think so either has had some really poor experiences (possibly through no fault of their own) or I don't know maybe they're just gay and don't know it yet.

Also, you're right - gay people never have sex.

Yeah well my opinion... I'm sorry if I conform to society, to something I find enjoyable.

And well it wasn't like I just walked up to her and said "wanna have sex"

Well... not the kind we are talking about

 

[Tech Team FTW!]

Why would you want to win?

Because different people are, gasp, different?

That's one competition I'm glad I've already lost.

Congratulations. I am sure that took a lot of work.

Sex is great anyone who doesn't think so either has had some really poor experiences (possibly through no fault of their own) or I don't know maybe they're just gay and don't know it yet.

Also, you're right - gay people never have sex.

Well... not the kind we are talking about

What kind are you talking about?

 

[Flushfacker]

Sex is great anyone who doesn't think so either has had some really poor experiences (possibly through no fault of their own) or I don't know maybe they're just gay and don't know it yet.

Or maybe they just have a different opinion of sex.
Not everyone is ruled by their biological imperative.
Also, you're right - gay people never have sex.

I think he meant they might be gay and not know it, therefore still having sex with the opposite gender and not enjoying it... still doesn't make much sense but hey there you go.

 

[LooK iTz Jinjo]

Well... not the kind we are talking about

What kind are you talking about?
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Not with a woman... kind of part of being gay

 

[zauxz]

Thi is actually a very good thing. It shows that you are not one of those jocky assholles who think with theyr cocks.

 

[Khadath]

Why would you want to win?

Because different people are, gasp, different?

That's one competition I'm glad I've already lost.

Congratulations. I am sure that took a lot of work.

Sex is great anyone who doesn't think so either has had some really poor experiences (possibly through no fault of their own) or I don't know maybe they're just gay and don't know it yet.

Also, you're right - gay people never have sex.

Well... not the kind we are talking about

What kind are you talking about?

Don't bother he's just a troll, I haven't seen him on a single thread where he hasn't been in an argument.

 

[LysanderBlack]

Hold on, let me get my crystal ball.

Ah yes. Your future. I can see it now. You're going to end up not getting the person you're aiming for, and you'll wonder why you turned down the loving when it was flinged your way. That's how these things work, Tim.

I'm going to have to agree with you on this one. That's how my luck has gone anyway. You may be aiming for someone else but you need to face the facts; You do not have a secure future with the person you are aiming for. The girl you turned down at least was letting you know that there was something there you could have had.

Anyway, you can justify your decision all you want. In my mind, it was a mistake that I would rather not make again.

 

[LooK iTz Jinjo]

Sex is great anyone who doesn't think so either has had some really poor experiences (possibly through no fault of their own) or I don't know maybe they're just gay and don't know it yet.

Or maybe they just have a different opinion of sex.
Not everyone is ruled by their biological imperative.
Also, you're right - gay people never have sex.

I think he meant they might be gay and not know it, therefore still having sex with the opposite gender and not enjoying it... still doesn't make much sense but hey there you go.

It actually happens, in English we are currently studying a movie called "Lantana" there is a gay man in this film who is having an affair with a married man. The man describes sex with his wife as "Trying to fill an empty well." It's not as uncommon as you might think...

 

[megalomania]

How can you say you never want to have sex, without having ever tried it? Thats like saying I don't like peanut butter without trying it.

I think I see a very thin veil of an excuse for why you are still a virgin, you don't need to make excuses to people just because its 'unusual' to still be a virgin at age X (insert your age here).

Oh...my god. Do you have any idea how annoying you are, even from here, out of the line of fire?
"Oh of course you're just making excuses for not having fucked someone. Of course it's not a choice, hohohoho."
Tell them to stop pissing me off and I will!

I didn't say it wasn't a choice. I just don't understand how people can profess to never want sex or love, there are massive biochemical incentives to both and they are basically programmed into us. The human condition allows us to ignore some of our baser instincts but they are there for a reason and are pretty damn powerful.

Assuming I am speaking to a largely non-religious crowd: Continuing our own genetic material with offspring is the most powerful raison d'etre from an evolutionary standpoint.

 

[Deimateos]

the girl is smoking hot and what not great personality.
but theres someone else im aiming for.
EDIT: This is aimed toward both the female and male community of the escapist, and im hoping everyone can be mature about this

It's not weird at all, but I think the thing that bothers me about this post is that basically it sounds more as if you're using the person you're "aiming for" as an excuse for not doing anything with the "smoking hot" girl (stay with me, I'll clarify ).


By your description, It doesn't sound as if you're not interested in the hot girl and since you said you're "aiming" for the other one I'll assume you aren't courting/dating her either. Aiming for a possibility is all well and good, but when you use that possibility (which is uncertain) to deny yourself of life's experiences (the non-criminal ones), it becomes less of a reason and more of an excuse, imo.


Unless the other girl has outright said "We should go on a date/I wanna be your GF/etc", there's no guarantee that she'll receive you back the way you want to be. In the past, I've built up the idea of a girl being my girlfriend so bad (in my head) that I couldn't see the obvious signs that she wasn't interested in me in that way. Maybe it's different in your case, maybe it's not, I can't judge that type of situation over the net.


As far as I can tell, having sex with the "hot" girl shouldn't hurt your chances with "aimed for" girl, unless "aimed for" & "hot" are mortal enemies or something. To add to that, if having sex with "hot" does mess with your chances with "aimed for"(if you aren't already courting/dating her), she's probably not right for you. Anyone who would turn you down for a date based on who you've been with before them (unless you've been with notorious STDers/Whores) has some issues you really don't wanna deal with. Life's not certain and you never know, being with "hot" girl actually might be better than being with "aimed for" girl.


Bottom line: If you're single and not courting anyone, don't ever let a possibility take precedence over a reality. That's because if(or when) the possibility becomes a reality, it may fail to live up to your expectations(and fail hard!). The idea will almost always sound better than a reality, because while its an idea, you can control it, and people like control. Quite literally, you can make any idea infinitely better than any reality, no matter how good that reality is! A metaphor for the expectations would be "The grass is greener on the other side, because that's where all the shit is", and to put in the context of this forum, I cite every over-hyped game, ever!


PS: Sorry for the lost post, I just have a mo-cap audition later today, saw this and got in a help-y mood!

 

[Flushfacker]

Sex is great anyone who doesn't think so either has had some really poor experiences (possibly through no fault of their own) or I don't know maybe they're just gay and don't know it yet.

Or maybe they just have a different opinion of sex.
Not everyone is ruled by their biological imperative.
Also, you're right - gay people never have sex.

I think he meant they might be gay and not know it, therefore still having sex with the opposite gender and not enjoying it... still doesn't make much sense but hey there you go.

It actually happens, in English we are currently studying a movie called "Lantana" there is a gay man in this film who is having an affair with a married man. The man describes sex with his wife as "Trying to fill an empty well." It's not as uncommon as you might think...

I don't know how common or uncommon it might be, but your example isn't the same thing. You said he is having an affair with another man, so presumably he does know he is gay XD

 

[Tech Team FTW!]

Sex is great anyone who doesn't think so either has had some really poor experiences (possibly through no fault of their own) or I don't know maybe they're just gay and don't know it yet.

Or maybe they just have a different opinion of sex.
Not everyone is ruled by their biological imperative.
Also, you're right - gay people never have sex.

I think he meant they might be gay and not know it, therefore still having sex with the opposite gender and not enjoying it... still doesn't make much sense but hey there you go.

It actually happens, in English we are currently studying a movie called "Lantana" there is a gay man in this film who is having an affair with a married man. The man describes sex with his wife as "Trying to fill an empty well." It's not as uncommon as you might think...

So you've seen Lantana and suddenly you are an expert.
I fail to see the logic in that. Perhaps you should look beyond fictional characters if you want your opinion to have any weight whatsoever.

 

[LooK iTz Jinjo]

Sex is great anyone who doesn't think so either has had some really poor experiences (possibly through no fault of their own) or I don't know maybe they're just gay and don't know it yet.

Or maybe they just have a different opinion of sex.
Not everyone is ruled by their biological imperative.
Also, you're right - gay people never have sex.

I think he meant they might be gay and not know it, therefore still having sex with the opposite gender and not enjoying it... still doesn't make much sense but hey there you go.

It actually happens, in English we are currently studying a movie called "Lantana" there is a gay man in this film who is having an affair with a married man. The man describes sex with his wife as "Trying to fill an empty well." It's not as uncommon as you might think...

So you've seen Lantana and suddenly you are an expert.
I fail to see the logic in that. Perhaps you should look beyond fictional characters if you want your opinion to have any weight whatsoever.

When did I say that just because I've seen some average movie that made me an expert? Dude I'm just speaking my opinion, from my own experiences and from people I know and from what I've read here. I'm not looking for a fight or to feel dominant superior or anything, just trying to help and voice my opinion.

 

[Tech Team FTW!]

When did I say that just because I've seen some average movie that made me an expert? Dude I'm just speaking my opinion, from my own experiences and from people I know and from what I've read here. I'm not looking for a fight or to feel dominant superior or anything, just trying to help and voice my opinion.

How the hell did you think that would help?!

 

[jacobschndr]

I've had this happen to me twice. Once there was a girl I turned down because she was already with someone else at the time, she wanted to sleep with me for just shits and giggles and I guess she did it numerous times before with other guys behind her boyfriends back, I thought to myself that I don't want to be another number for her and I know what it feels like to have your significant other cheat on you so I felt sorry for the boyfriend.

The other girl was just drunk and stupid at the time and I didn't want to be one of those assholes that slept with her while she really wasn't all herself. Honestly though, I don't care about sex anymore.

I know that sounds sad and pathetic but I just don't give a shit. I mean I'm to busy with work and trying to figure out where to go in life. These days when you commit to sleeping with someone it means you commit to them entirely, I mean whatever happened to one-night stands where in the morning you leave and thats that?

 

[TheJim]

If it's meaningless fun, why turn it down?

 

[ExplosiveSheds]

I once turned down sex because I was watching scrubs.

Sometimes it just isnt a good time.