Why are you hetero or homosexual?...

[Realitycrash]

Because I simply fancy girls? I tried having sex with a boy but I simply did not enjoy the experience

Why are we still having this discussion over and over again? There's nothing wrong with hetero or homo, we just have different tastes. It's like having the "What's the best flavor, vanilla or chocolate?" discussion with a five year old.
It never goes anywhere, it just stirs up a lot of emotions.

 

[TheSolemnHypnotic]

Hup! Soapbox time! Been saving this little musing for a while, think it's about time it got shared.

The fanatics need to be believe that sexuality is a choice. Their holy book tells them homosexuality is a sin, so for them, it has to be a choice. Saying someone can be born a sinner goes against the whole "caring god" thing.

It's kind of sad, when you think about it, ignoring the obvious truth to address blatant inconsistencies in fairy tales, but what can you do, really?

I'm sorry, but that was really random. Are you referring to me?

More aimed at trying to rationalise why people would consider something like this to be a choice, but you did ask why people are heterosexual or homosexual. In my mind, that's akin to asking why someone's male or female! D=

(Well, maybe not exactly like that, but very similar)

Okay. I'm sorry.

 

[TheEndlessSleep]

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AHA!

We've reached the 'opinion' barrier, the point at which you decide that you don't need to justify anything through actual proof, but you are content simply to tell me that I am wrong because I disagree.

Surely you can see my point of view; You are telling me - with no evidence other than your word - that humans are able to change their biology through the application of intense thought over a long period of time. I'm sorry, but that just sounds a little too farfetched for me to swallow without any kind of proof.

The only logical step now is to ask you for a link to some kind of research that proves that what you are saying is possible. At that point, I will believe you.

I am perfectly happy to be proved wrong, now get to it.

 

[Da Orky Man]

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Yeah, it sounds like what you have done is merely to take a vow of abstinance, rather than ceasing to be attracted to things.

Unless you had some kind of operation, you can't simply turn of your sex drive.

Don't tell me what I am and what I'm not. I took no vow of abstinence, I literally changed my biological structure with a series of powerful neurological commands that were given to the rest of my biology over an extensive period of time.

No operation was done, and I assure you that I am able and did "turn off" my sex drive.

I will feel sexual attraction to a specific person, regardless of gender, so long as that person feels identical towards me. This is not to be confused with bisexual, as I have no attraction whatsoever to any gender. I'm in a relationship, and that's the only person I have any semblance of sexual attraction to, and this person is also asexual, so it works out well.

If you're truly unaware that a person can have virtually no sex drive, if none whatsoever, then I ask that you please do some research on asexuality.

If you doubt that the human mind is capable of such feats, I'm afraid I feel no interest in spending my time trying to make some sort of point by explaining the dynamics to you or anybody else. Trust what you will, but I've spent the last several years educating myself on the subject so that I may become an authority in such a regard, as it's highly relevant to my career.

So, you claim to have altered the pattern of amino acids locked within your chromosomes, in turn within your cell nucleus, within every cell in your body? Then, waited for this genetic alteration to have an effect on the release of hormones within your blood stream?
And you did this by thinking hard?
So, by the same train of thought, you should be able to change other genetic structures via the same method. Possibly curing dementia by really wishing you didn't have.
For some reason, I'm sceptical.

 

[TheSolemnHypnotic]

Because I simply fancy girls? I tried having sex with a boy but I simply did not enjoy the experience

Why are we still having this discussion over and over again? There's nothing wrong with hetero or homo, we just have different tastes. It's like having the "What's the best flavor, vanilla or chocolate?" discussion with a five year old.
It never goes anywhere, it just stirs up a lot of emotions.

I'm sorry about my lack of maturity. I'll be sure to never ask another question ever again.

 

[DaJoW]

I'm heterosexual because I'm attracted to the opposite sex of my species. I believe this is accurate enough.

 

[TheEndlessSleep]

So, you claim to have altered the pattern of amino acids locked within your chromosomes, in turn within your cell nucleus, within every cell in your body? Then, waited for this genetic alteration to have an effect on the release of hormones within your blood stream?
And you did this by thinking hard?
So, by the same train of thought, you should be able to change other genetic structures via the same method. Possibly curing dementia by really wishing you didn't have.
For some reason, I'm sceptical.

It's nice to know that somebody else's bullshit alarm went off.

 

[Henkie36]

Anyone who doesn't awnser this question with something like ''there is no awnser to this question'', is probably in denial for the other.

 

[Realitycrash]

Because I simply fancy girls? I tried having sex with a boy but I simply did not enjoy the experience

Why are we still having this discussion over and over again? There's nothing wrong with hetero or homo, we just have different tastes. It's like having the "What's the best flavor, vanilla or chocolate?" discussion with a five year old.
It never goes anywhere, it just stirs up a lot of emotions.

I'm sorry about my lack of maturity. I'll be sure to never ask another question ever again.

You are a victim of circumstance. Sorry. We've had several of these threads recently, and the answer is always the same; Because we're born that way.

I apologize, did not mean to snap.

 

[KingofallCosmos]

Well, I always stood open for everything, I even think my mother's a bit disappointed that I'm heterosexual and being bi doubles your playground.
It's really just I don't feel any tension or attraction or w/e to the same sex, while women can blow my mind with just a gesture.

 

[richd213]

Because I'd rather handle boobies than man-vegetables.

 

[similar.squirrel]

I don't particularly like the idea of dealing with another man's genitals. Is there any more to it than that?

Lo and behold, my captcha contains the word ' dong'.

 

[Stasisesque]

So, you claim to have altered the pattern of amino acids locked within your chromosomes, in turn within your cell nucleus, within every cell in your body? Then, waited for this genetic alteration to have an effect on the release of hormones within your blood stream?
And you did this by thinking hard?
So, by the same train of thought, you should be able to change other genetic structures via the same method. Possibly curing dementia by really wishing you didn't have.
For some reason, I'm sceptical.

It's nice to know that somebody else's bullshit alarm went off.

Everyone's did.

Anthony Robbins, supposedly a professor, aka http://www.tonyrobbins.com/ this guy claims the same as Heartshield. As does Joe Vitale http://www.mrfire.com/ aka that guy.

Hence my query into hypnotherapy.

There is one scientific paper to support Heartshield's claims, but it has absolutely no solid scientific evidence to back it up and has been rejected by all medical journals.

 

[SinisterGehe]

Um...

Maybe I'm just reading your OP wrong but you seem to completely ignore the existence of bisexuality.

Or A-sexuality...

Umm... I think there is no "why you are", I think there is only "Why you think you are" since your sexuality is not a absolute thing, it is molded by your DNA, history, culture, environment, imagination, lusts and emotions, it is such a complicated thing that there is no "why".

 

[Smooth Operator]

I was born that way, noone ever told me what and who to prefer and up to the point of my adolescence I hated girls with a passion, they didn't like games, or cars, or planes, or boats, or Legos, they only wanted to play some stupid social games or dress-up,... useless!.

Then I turned 13 and now they are the single greatest thing in my world, subconscious sure has a sense of humor.

 

[Fledge]

It isn't a choice, why is it that I see so ny threads with OP's that don't understand that on this forum?

 

[Brandon237]

-How is it that people are capable of just sticking to one gender of people?
-Gender is a very flexible thing (feminine characteristics found in males, vice versa).
-Or do you think this theory is the result of being alone for so long and once I engage in socionormative behaviors I'll be able to see in more black and white than gray?

-How is it you're only heterosexual/homosexual? Am I completely over looking/ undermining the physical/sexual attraction aspect of relationships?

Edit II: Why do people keep thinking I said sexuality is a choice? If you get that impression I clearly need to have my post beta'd.

People keep thinking you said that because of the points I have left there with little dashes (around half your post). They make it seem like people choose to only go for one gender, so if you want to fix your post, start on those points, especially the first line and the TL;DR.

And this is to me how sexuality works:[footnote]yes I made the diagram myself, sorry for crappiness[/footnote][footnote]The higher on the chart, the stronger your sexual attraction, how far left and right you are represents to which gender(s) that attraction is aimed at, so dark blue would be very heterosexual and rather obsessed with the other gender.[/footnote]

 

[TheLoneBeet]

I'm hetero because I don't have a choice in the matter. I'm attracted to girls and I'm not attracted to guys and that's that. I don't even react the same way to having each gender hit on me. When a girl hits on me I feel natural about it and usually flirt back. If a guy flirts with me I don't know how to react except to establish I don't swing that way. I don't even feel complimented I just feel awkward. I'm fine to be friends with the guy if they still want to talk / hangout.

If I met a guy who made me feel amazing; I'd befriend him and our friendship would probably be amazing. If he was homosexual I wouldn't do anything about it, I'm not homophobic so I'd just establish I wasn't into him and let that be that.

It's just not about the personality THAT much for me. If I'm not attracted to somebody I cannot maintain a relationship. I'm not trying to say I'm a douche and I only go for good-looking people, it just weighs heavily on me. I've broken off relationships with some of the nicest girls I've ever known because sexually they just weren't doing it for me. I'm aware I probably sound like an asshole and I'm fine with that. I'm not willing to settle for "good personality but leaves you sexually frustrated" in a relationship. Nor would I settle for "bitchy girl who's good in bed" either.

 

[C95J]

Please read. How is it that people are capable of just sticking to one gender of people?

Simple: it's who we are.

Sexuality is not a choice.

This answer is all this thread needs, because it is the truth.

 

[Geekmaster]

I'm heterosexual because I'm not physically attracted to men, simple as that.

And yes, I've "experimented" a little. You don't need to take it up the arse to find out. If you willingly kiss someone of the same gender as you and feel disgusted, you're probably straight.