Why do people always try to excuse failed attempts at romance?

[rbstewart7263]

Than Faraja you only got a few options man. Sticking by friends to figure out the option best for you is my advice

 

[Faraja]

Than Faraja you only got a few options man. Sticking by friends to figure out the option best for you is my advice

I've tried that, man, but it hasn't worked; so I guess I'm on my own.

 

[Something Amyss]

The thing that gets me though is its not always a "failing", sometimes people go around making excuses when the reason something didn't work out was that they just weren't compatible on a deeper level. Like it's no major loss or anything except to a bit of pride maybe...

Your first post does seem to imply all such reasons are merely excuses, though.

People feel the need to save face, though. It's a cultural thing. Though when it gets to whining, it gets particularly annoying. "Oh, why can't I find a girl? They only like bad boys and I'm nice!"

So yeah, somewhat agreed, but sometimes there really are reasons.

 

[darlarosa]

The thing that gets me though is its not always a "failing", sometimes people go around making excuses when the reason something didn't work out was that they just weren't compatible on a deeper level. Like it's no major loss or anything except to a bit of pride maybe...

Your first post does seem to imply all such reasons are merely excuses, though.

People feel the need to save face, though. It's a cultural thing. Though when it gets to whining, it gets particularly annoying. "Oh, why can't I find a girl? They only like bad boys and I'm nice!"

So yeah, somewhat agreed, but sometimes there really are reasons.

Of course there are reasons. I think people need to stop acting like excuses and reasons are the same. I dunno, thats always just made me annoyed. :/

Anyone could tell difference between a reason and an excuse but we(I don't and my father doesn't) use them interchangeably....

 

[lacktheknack]

Why do people always try to excuse failed attempts at ANYTHING?

Because it hurts to say "I screwed up".

 

[Hjalmar Fryklund]

Why do people always try to excuse failed attempts at ANYTHING?

Because it hurts to say "I screwed up".

Exactly. Self-honesty is good for the soul, but it is a skill that needs to be learned. Often the hard way.