Why do so many guys here suck at talking to or doing pretty much anything with girls?

[Lexodus]

Umm, how about the fact that we are all a bunch of gamers? That's probably a pretty good reason.

No it isn't.
I'm a gamer, and I've never had an issue talking with girls.
Social ineptitude has nothing to do with being a gamer or not.

I've learned by observation that guys that aren't good talking to girls don't have sisters, like me, and viceversa...

That actually kind of makes sense.
I have two sisters, both older, and never had girl talking issues.
Although...my best friend also never had girl talking issues (He was far more a ladies man then I ever was) and he didn't have any sisters...though he had a lot of cousins close by who were girls...maybe that counts? I don't know.
Sort of makes sense on the surface, though.

To be fair, a lot of people spend a lot of time gaming (and thus associate themselves with gamers and refer to themselves as such) because they are socially inept, and you do get the stereotypical WoW nerds, etc., who cut themselves off from the outside world and stop talking to people completely.

However, you are right in arguing that they are not co-dependant.



I also have no trouble talking to girls. I think any close relationships with females from a young age helps.

 

[orangeapples]

perhaps it's because the only interaction with females guys get around here are with dating sims (remember the japanese guy who MARRIED his DS?), and we all know how accurate dating sims are

Girl: Oh hello.

-ummm. Hello, can you help me with something?
-Well hello to you too.
-lets fuck!


talking to real girls is simple, just talk about more common stuff and less about elitist nerdy stuff. You will be surprised in the things they are interested in.

 

[rokkolpo]

i can talk to girls just as easy as guys.

you just have to act like youre pleasent to be around with. not blunt as you are as ''one of the guys''.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

"incredibly disturbing opinions about girls in general ("Are women jealous of men" thread) "
You didn't read his entire wall of text, did you. He explained why he tought women were jealous on men...

No, I don't find it in any way, shape or form hard to communicate with girls, tho I will admit sometimes I really got no idea what they are talking about. I also loath anyone who is between the ages of 12 and 16. Just throwing it out there.

Yeah I did read the entire thing, wrote my own wall of text in that thread explaining how horribly insane he (and everyone who agreed) was.

Now, I'm not interested in who can and who can't. I'm interested in finding out WHY a lot of people here can't.

I think most people here are just plain shy. Shyness was the thing which kept me away from girls up until grade 5th. Shyness is pretty much what rules a mans ability to communicate with a woman, at least in my case.

 

[GrinningManiac]

They rolled a low charisma stat.

AHAHAHAHA, I quite literally lol'd.

Epic Win.

Exibit A) Nerd Slang

 

[Arkhangelsk]

Meh, I have no problems talking to girls. Hell, not even girls I have crushes on. I keep all the thoughts and emotions on the inside, and act normal on the outside. I'm mostly neutral to girls. They're normal persons like everyone else. But it still doesn't help that I have a minor stuttering problem.

 

[ItsAChiaotzu]

I don't think the problem is one-sided. I'm a female and I'm horrible with men. I think it has more to do with gamers in general having little or no "game"

But that's the thing, there are plenty of people who play video games and whilst they aren't the hottest guy at the party, they still manage to actually talk. Not to mention countless "gaming communities" that I've seen aren't nearly as inept as here. I feel gaming is only part of the reason.
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Sorry, no, it's gaming, it's the fact that we're nerds, it's the fact that you really need to leave us alone, because frankly, we don't care. You're generalising about a forum, that's completely ridiculous, who would come to a forum based on the fact that they couldn't talk to girls? No one would, and no one would know, so your assumptions about the population of this forum are bullshit.

 

[buzlee]

It's because they spend all their time online in the virtual world so that's the only place they have any balls.

 

[Carnagath]

OT I personally don't have a problem, as long as we have something interesting in common. Small talk is something that I am mostly incapable of. I do have friends that start talking with girls and go on for about an hour, then I ask them "What were you talking about?", and they are like "Y'know, stuff, nothing in particular". I don't understand how that works. Every time I tried it, it only led to embarassing silence.

 

[GoldenRaz]

They rolled a low charisma stat.

Noobs, don't they know that the most useful dialogue options always have a speech check?

OT: You might want to take some of those posts with just a teensy pinch of salt, since this is the internet, after all. But it might be that since these people have such communication issues they have chosen to play video games and/or go on a forum instead of making fools of themselves trying to talk to girls. And since they then further isolate themselves from any opportunity to talk to girls, it becomes even more difficult for them to do so. A kind of snowball-effect, if you so will, that gives them the opinions and communication issues that you have seen.

Meh, I dunno, I'm no shrink, and I find it quite silly to have problem talking to people just because they have a different kind of reproductive system than you. Still, my two cents have been presented, make of it what you will.

 

[SmartIdiot]

Because many guys on these forums are stuck in the middle of puberty right now so it's very awkward for them to talk to girls without freaking out/popping a boner. Notice I said 'many' not 'all' before you decide to take an issue with the previous statement. I know I'm right, some others know I'm right, you probably know I'm right.

 

[President Moocow]

Alright, I like a lot of these responses.

Oh dear. Whats with all the threads about girls being all radgy bout the way guys are on this forum, first the girl gamer thread and then this.

It's just some girls are so stuck up and have such high standards that some guys who arent mega sports freaks just dont have a chance. Maybe you should be blaming the girls for the reason that many nerds/ geeks/ gamers can't talk to girls... They just get ditched straight away.

Then theres the not many girls are gonna have the same common interests as a typical male gamer... If they did it'd be easier for the guys to talk to them instead of sounding like a freak.. Hell I get funny looks when I talk to guys about games.

So I think you were being kinda unfair taking a hit at the guys here...

Yeah I figured I'd cater to the audience here, what with the millions of thread created here concerning guy and girl social dynamics.

No, what you just defined was a very cliche'd stereotype of "girls go for jocks, not nerds". It's not at all the same in real life. In fact you'll find girls care way more about a guy's personality than how buff he is (buff does give an advantage, but no deal-breaker). That's why confidence is gold.

 

[Cosmic Humor]

Honestly, what it is is a combination of lack of knowledge of useless social cues and self-esteem issues. Overcome the latter, and with a bit of practice the second will come to you.

 

[Snork Maiden]

"incredibly disturbing opinions about girls in general ("Are women jealous of men" thread) "
You didn't read his entire wall of text, did you. He explained why he tought women were jealous on men...

No, I don't find it in any way, shape or form hard to communicate with girls, tho I will admit sometimes I really got no idea what they are talking about. I also loath anyone who is between the ages of 12 and 16. Just throwing it out there.

Yeah I did read the entire thing, wrote my own wall of text in that thread explaining how horribly insane he (and everyone who agreed) was.

Now, I'm not interested in who can and who can't. I'm interested in finding out WHY a lot of people here can't.

I think most people here are just plain shy. Shyness was the thing which kept me away from girls up until grade 5th. Shyness is pretty much what rules a mans ability to communicate with a woman, at least in my case.

I was completely shy until I realised I wasn't shy at all online. All I had to do was transfer my internet persona (which was basically someone who said what I wanted to say rather than looking at my feet) into real life.

 

[Malevolent Stranger]

Hmmlet'ssee.. I do just fine, have a girlfriend (Or two, cough), and I'm fine at it. Don't sterotype us.

 

[Carnagath]

It's because they spend all their time online in the virtual world so that's the only place they have any balls.

An internet tough guy appears.

 

[illirica]

My theory is that people just don't have any reason to post when everything's going just fine. If you go post a "talked to girl" thread every time you do so successfully, people are just going to think you're a moron. People post threads like that when they actually want help.

Further, they wouldn't be posting here if they didn't think there was at least someone around who could give them advice. So, I think that people here believe that there is advice to be had on these forums from more experienced people, and post asking for help. In a few more years, the people asking questions now might be the people giving advice.

 

[comadorcrack]

I have a girlfriend. So i'll thank you not to insult me

on a side note, I've finally made the jump to console gamming and go myself a PS3

I feel Dirty

 

[mmkorn22]

I've learned by observation that guys that aren't good talking to girls don't have sisters, like me, and viceversa...

That sounds reasonable. I'm an only child, and my social skills are horribly lacking. I can't comfortably talk to someone in person. Online is different. I can be myself, I can crack jokes, I can act like a normal human. In person, I'm quiet, introverted, and constantly blushing.