Am I Really the Minority When it Comes to Sex?

[Mechanix]

If you really want to, that's completely your choice. But really, there is nothing wrong with sex with someone you don't love if you use protection and pills. It doesn't have to be that sacred. If you want it to be, that's your choice and if you're happy with that then more power to you.

 

[lacktheknack]

I'm interested to know why you feel sorry for me. Please do elaborate.

I actually have faith in the idea that love > sex.

I also believe that multiple partners damages capacity to love (I get this from watching peers).

Therefore, I feel that you will never experience true love.

<+1 "You're retarded" flame shield>

That was going so well until the flame shield bit. I'd never dream of flaming; it's not the intelligent way, even if I staunchly disagree with someone.

I felt true love with my longest-term girlfriend, but unfortunately it ended when I left for University, and we were both damaged by it. I don't know about her, but I've certainly bounced back into committed relationships, although I'm sure I'm still a ways off feeling true love again.

And that's fine with me.

All right then.

By the way, the flame shield bit wasn't for you, it's because I stuck my neck out for all the troll lurkers to see.

 

[Yureina]

Who are you and why haven't i met you yet?

lol jk, but seriously everything you just said in that post essentially describes my views in a nutshell, reading it was almost surreal XD

Well, you met me now didn't you? ;P Your welcome.

I find your points about not wanting to be pressured into things valid, and even people who DO have sex get annoyed at people who constantly talk about it all the time no matter what.

However, I still hold that the requirements for sex are trust and comfort with the other person, and that these requirements are necessary but insufficient for lifelong love.

And because of how I operate, neither trust or comfort are quick or easy things to obtain, and also extremely easy to lose. I've already accepted my likely future of remaining single indefinetly, but... eh, I suppose we will see. It does not bother me too much yet.

 

[Kiju]

Teenagers: A group of mostly rebellious youth who are turning into adults, and want to act more like adults so that their parents will treat them with more respect.

Sex: A forbidden act that is only available to adults, feels quite amazing, and is very risky considering all the consequences that come with committing such an act.

See a trend?

Also, some teenagers just do it as a 'fight the power' sort of thing. It's a really weak way of doing that sort of thing, but then again, most teenagers aren't exactly the brightest bunch in the world. If you're being chaste until you find someone you love, then that's fine and dandy, but a big gamble. Very rarely, and I mean very rarely will you find someone you want to be with for the rest of your life, or even for the next week or so. There's nothing wrong with waiting for it to happen, but honestly, you're better off just finding someone you like, like a friend or someone you think is a great person, and doing something sexual with them if they're of like mind. Sex for love is great, but it's sex for just the simple enjoyment of the act, that is one of the things that sets us apart from a more animalistic nature.

Now, I'm not saying go out and get laid with the nearest wench you can find, no. I'm saying don't hold yourself back if you've got the urge/want and so does your partner. You only have X amount of years of sexual virility. Don't waste them.

 

[tzimize]

As long as the two people are of similar mind and maturity go for it.
Of course young people want to have sex, its exciting and one of the big tresholds of being an adult. Also, it feels awesome. Use the proper protection though

I disagree with what some has said about sex being pointless if you are not in love. Granted I have had only two real sexual partners and I've been in love with both of them. However I can totally see it being a nice thing to have sex for the enjoyment only, no strings attached.

The sex will always be best though with a regular partner. Safety and relaxation will help both parts, and it is so much easier to explore the possibilities with a partner you can feel safe with.

 

[Necromancer1991]

There are 2 reasons why most teenagers are "horn-dogs" me included (that's what the internet is for)
1.Hormones
2.Relaxed Sexual Mores

 

[Reenix]

Does saying "+1 Flame Shield" really work against people who like to troll other peoples' idiosyncrasies?

But on-topic, Kiju brings up a good point about wanting to do things that they shouldn't - sex is almost as psychologically stimulating as it is physically. Take that Freud, you Oedipal weirdo.

 

[micky]

Arrr, all me want t' do is have sex Aye, me parrot concurs.

 

[Reenix]

Arrr, all me want t' do is have sex Aye, me parrot concurs.

Way to lock your own chastity belt.

 

[Contextualizer]

I actually have faith in the idea that love > sex.

Why are these things mutually exclusive? I have always felt true love with the partners I have been sexually intimate with.

Then again, I've never had one night stands or anything. But I definitely don't think that damages one's capacity to love.

I also believe that multiple partners damages capacity to love (I get this from watching peers).

It just sounds like you're afraid of falling in love with a girl who has been with a lot more partners than you, or maybe even just a few more than you.

 

[Reenix]

It just sounds like you're afraid of falling in love with a girl who has been with a lot more partners than you, or maybe even just a few more than you.

From experience, sleeping with a more experienced girl is fun because they can teach you so much. A sleeping with a more experienced guy...that should be obvious.

 

[lacktheknack]

I also believe that multiple partners damages capacity to love (I get this from watching peers).

It just sounds like you're afraid of falling in love with a girl who has been with a lot more partners than you, or maybe even just a few more than you.

No... not at all.

Marrying a girl without a hymen would make the first night a LOT less panicky and jittery.

 

[micky]

Arrr, all me want t' do is have sex Aye, me parrot concurs.

Way to lock your own chastity belt.

Arrr, don't make me strapped t'the masthead you Gar.

 

[Reenix]

Marrying a girl without a hymen would make the first night a LOT less panicky and jittery.

But would it be worth the eternal damnation? That's the million-pound question du jour.

 

[Footinbox]

I think that many people want to wait, but then they start dating someone, and when you're young you either fall in love or think you've fallen in love quickly, and so you have sex and poof, there goes your virginity. It all makes sense if you're an advocate of evolutionary psychology though.

I agree, evolutionary psychology and even other parts of psychology explain why this happens. Also, the idea of 'love' differs greatly from person-to-person. Some say it's soulmates, some say it's sex, etc. There's really no one definition for 'love'. Also, how fast someone falls in love differs from person-to-person. Sometimes it's accidental such as drunk, fear (psychologists understand that one), etc. It's kind've annoying how people take this topic so seriously. I have plenty of sex-crazed friends, it's natural and I don't care. And I've never done it. I think topics like this should cease to exist. Just sayin'.

 

[Reenix]

Arrr, all me want t' do is have sex Aye, me parrot concurs.

Way to lock your own chastity belt.

Arrr, don't make me strapped t'the masthead you Gar.

Way to throw away the key :3

 

[micky]

Arrr, all me want t' do is have sex Aye, me parrot concurs.

Way to lock your own chastity belt.

Arrr, don't make me strapped t'the masthead you Gar.

Way to throw away the key :3

pirates get no love....maybe i should be a ninja?