Sparkly-elf said:
You know, with every message-board comes the inevitable gender war/sexist thread stating how men are evil because of how women are portrayed in games.
I don't know about you, but that argument seems ridiculous to me.
So, I started this thread to state the fact, and ask some hard questions.
Facts
I think men are wonderful. As a woman, there is no-one I feel more secure around than my boyfriend, and I KNOW FOR A FACT that though he does love his large breasts, me; being decidedly small in that area, does not affect him. He would never, EVER expect me to suddenly grow into a double D and would never even want it.
Because he loves me for me. Not breasts, or booty. Sure he likes them, but there is much more to him than just his erotic fantasises.
And that goes for all men. Sure, you guys may like your big whatevers or your small whatevers, but every single man I know doesn't immediatly go for it. The men I know love their women because they can talk to them, be supported by them, sit down and have a laugh and play games and just relax with them.
Men treasure women, given the right circumstances. And nothing makes a woman feel more special than her man (or any man in particular).
The most sexist thing my boyfriend ever said to me was "I would hate it if you earned more than me". That pissed me right off, but really, I know he said that because he doesn't want to feel like a bum scabbing off my wages. He cares about me, and wants to support me. You would be surprised how many men actually WANT to support their lovers.
Obviously, abuse does exist, and yes women do get killed or beaten or emotionally abused by their spouse, but that all stems from the circumstances of the individual, be in their past or in their present, and these people need alot of help. But it exists in women too, men have emotion regardless of what either gender may think, and if you put a man down or kick him even after he's failed, he's gonna hurt.
Abuse exists, I do not deny that. But it isn't only men.
It may be sexist of me, but as a woman, I expect my lover to protect me from harm, I expect him to support me when I'm at my most depressed.
And he will, without question. Regardless if I have big boobs or a size zero waist or not.
The point is, men are capable of love, despite what the thoughts of many are. I guess this thread is to point out their good aspects :3. You poor babes have been recieving so much bile as of late.
Questions
What is the most sexist thing you ever heard?
As a woman, what do you love about any man in particular in your life?
Why are so many women so quick to jump on the sexism-wagon?
And men, do you ever really get appreciated by women for being nice?
Overall, I'm glad you started this thread. Its something, as a guy, that I've thought on for a considerable amount of time. Why do we treat people the way we do, based on physical qualification? Men may have a thing between their legs and women may have a different thing between their legs but ultimately we're still the same species with the vast majority of our genetics being identical.. And yet so much crap arises out of these petty differences.
On to your questions.
What is the most sexist thing you ever heard? Haven't heard any serious sexist remarks. there are always the comedians being funny and the stupid friends making clear jokes. I truly haven't witnessed any sexist remarks that I can recall.. Though I do feel like there is a stigma against men. Men are the mean, crude, rude, abrasive assholes that abuse women constantly.. I don't see much to support that, and I am actually pretty insulted that I am painted with that stereotype just because of whats between my legs. (and to a lesser extent because I sport a trimmed distribution of facial hair)
As a woman, what do you love about any man in particular in your life? Cant comment.. I am a male. I wish I could hear positive things about me and "my gender" from women, though. There is too much negativity around gender and sexuality (two different concepts, but both related in this case)
Why are so many women so quick to jump on the sexism-wagon? Because 1 in 3 have or will be raped. Its terrible.. but there are also similar statistics related to abuse and male victims. I think it all stems out of fear, for the most part.. And its unfortunate because there are plenty of men out there, or at least I'd hope I'm not the only one, who have no desire to hurt women and would love to find one willing to be in a relationship with males of our "mindset".
And men, do you ever really get appreciated by women for being nice? Not really... Maybe I'm not doing it right, or I consider myself to be nicer than I actually am.. Though I have been called a "very sweet guy", "kind," and "sensitive".. Though it doesn't seem to be indicative of my "date-ability."
