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BaldursBananaSoap

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"But just like most times people make judgements like that about another school kid, they turned out right."

That is completely false. School kids are never ever right when they judge someone on appearance.
 

RanD00M

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I judge all people in a negative way until they prove to me that they're positive in my books.
 

MR T3D

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KillerMidget said:
I judge people by their actions towards me. Hasn't failed me yet.
exactly.
good way top live, so is being friendly even when ppl ignore ya
 

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BaldursBananaSoap said:
"But just like most times people make judgements like that about another school kid, they turned out right."

That is completely false. School kids are never ever right when they judge someone on appearance.
You would never guess that i´m a metal head by my looks.
 

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BaldursBananaSoap said:
"But just like most times people make judgements like that about another school kid, they turned out right."

That is completely false. School kids are never ever right when they judge someone on appearance.
In my experiences they have been sadly. But those times when they are wrong I've loved them because it shows to some people how not everything is as clear cut as it seems
 

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KillerMidget said:
I judge people by their actions towards me. Hasn't failed me yet.
this is how i judge people i dont judge on looks because everyone has a different definition of "normal"
 

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ayailla said:
To be honest, I know more people who don't fit into the stereotypes than I know people that do.

I know a few people that you would call, 'Emos.' I haven't actually met a single emo who is depressed and / or cuts him / herself. Yet everybody knows that emos cut themselves.

I would class myself as a Goth. People would think I am weird for doing so. I've been called a witch, a vampire, and people have told me to go and cut myself like the depressed individual I am. I'm honestly one of the most upbeat people I know. I don't have anything to be depressed about and if I did, I would look on the bright side of it. It's the same with most of the friends of mine who are gothic.

Whoever up there said that EVERYBODY judges people on thier looks no matter what they say... that isn't true. Somebody who has spent their lives being judged because of their looks will not inflict the same on others. I don't see a chav and immediately think they are going to stab me. I wait for the nasty comment before I judge them.

I think it's horrible that people do that, though. My mother continuously talks of a time when you would go to a party and have to go home because somebody else was wearing the same dress as you. Nowadays, they all go to clubs like sheep. It's all wearing what's 'in fashion' and not what they like. And somebody who wears what they like regardless of the trends is weird to them.

And I know people are going to be responding to this with, "but most of the stereotypes are true." Of course some people will act like the stereotype. That's how the stereotypes get started. But you shouldn't judge an entire group of people based on the few that you know or have seen. By that argument, I can judge most of Britain (where I live) and claim that they are all drug addicts, alcoholics, adulterers and bad parents, simply because that's what you see on the Jeremy Kyle Show.
One of the best responses on this thread. Mainly because you didn't swing to the extreme of either side of (what its now becomes) an arguement. Thanks
 

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Xvito said:
Although it's mostly unavoidable, I try to avoid being prejudicial.

Although, when I do judge people from their looks; I'm usually right (which is a little bit scary).
Okay, tell me what do you think this guy [http://www.ksml.fi/multimedia/dynamic/00056/Kopio_Wumpscut__2__56370c.jpg] is like?

On the subject, people will always prejudice others, solely based on looks. However, most often the weirdest an nastiest people look quite ordinary.
 

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Disaster Button said:
Have you ever had one of those times when you look at someone and you just know that they're a bit weird .. different?
I'm usually the awkward one being looked at. It already starts when I say that I don't drink alcohol -.-
 

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Disaster Button said:
Heh thanks, I actually lol'd.

But yeah, this whole thread has sent me on some deep thought track on whether I'm a hyprocrit without realising it as I hate when people make prejudgements, which seems to be what I've done.

Or whether I could always do things like this and not realise it. As sad as it is I've actually quesitoned myself alot over whether I prejudge everything or don't being oblvisious to it all.

Issues are truly awful.
Dude chill, you're a person who acted like a person. You weren't even remotely extreme about it. One of the closest reactions to 0 on a -5==5 scale of reactions. He looked weird you investigated, found he was fine and continued on with your life.

Ignore the peanut gallery, it'll make your life so much better.
 

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Personally I think the most interesting this about this thread is that it brought out the "I'm an individual, and I don't judge people ever!" side in almost everyone. Which is interesting, given that judging someone on their appearance is instinctive and unavoidable, it's how you identify predators, e.g. differentiating between a domestic dog and a wolf.

People just like to pretend they don't do it because life looks a lot better when you're on a high, high horse :)
 

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I wasn't aware everyone in the forum was above judging people in some way or another. Maybe what Disaster Button did wasn't the nicest thing to do but that doesn't give everyone else free reign to act like a prick.

But I guess you should probably try to befriend him, being in his situation isn't easy but if that doesn't work out it's not your fault if everyone else treats him like this.
 

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Now, im with most of you, judging people on looks alone really isnt a good thing... MOST of the time

LEts face it: sometimes people look OFF and its less a rude thing to notice than it is a wise use of WARNING SIGNS. To whit, there is one young lad at my campus who just plain LOOKS creepy. and its not any one thing either, every aspect of his appearance just puts everyone i know off, and the student body tends to avoid him. Now, i made the mistake many of my colleagues have and assumed that simply because he looked creepy and was not well liked was no reason not to be polite and speak. I was wrong. He makes unwanted sexual advances on anyone he meets, and when girls think he is gay, he uses the sense of security they get to cop a feel. It has since been learned he has been kicked out of one college on a molestation beef, and was expelled from his high school for having gay child pornography in his backpack and locker

sometimes, guys, looks mean everything
 

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"you cant judge a book by its cover"

But people forget that some individuals can tell you all too much by looking at the cover alone.

And these people are right all too often.
 

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KarumaK said:
Disaster Button said:
Heh thanks, I actually lol'd.

But yeah, this whole thread has sent me on some deep thought track on whether I'm a hyprocrit without realising it as I hate when people make prejudgements, which seems to be what I've done.

Or whether I could always do things like this and not realise it. As sad as it is I've actually quesitoned myself alot over whether I prejudge everything or don't being oblvisious to it all.

Issues are truly awful.
Dude chill, you're a person who acted like a person. You weren't even remotely extreme about it. One of the closest reactions to 0 on a -5==5 scale of reactions. He looked weird you investigated, found he was fine and continued on with your life.

Ignore the peanut gallery, it'll make your life so much better.
Charley said:
Personally I think the most interesting this about this thread is that it brought out the "I'm an individual, and I don't judge people ever!" side in almost everyone. Which is interesting, given that judging someone on their appearance is instinctive and unavoidable, it's how you identify predators, e.g. differentiating between a domestic dog and a wolf.

People just like to pretend they don't do it because life looks a lot better when you're on a high, high horse :)
TheZapper said:
I wasn't aware everyone in the forum was above judging people in some way or another. Maybe what Disaster Button did wasn't the nicest thing to do but that doesn't give everyone else free reign to act like a prick.

But I guess you should probably try to befriend him, being in his situation isn't easy but if that doesn't work out it's not your fault if everyone else treats him like this.

Heh thanks. You guys really made me feel a lot better about this whole things. And I do plan to try and befriend the kid, afterall it can't be easy for him at the minute. But yeah, thanks for being objective about the whole tihng instead of jumping to one conclusion or another
 

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Charley said:
Personally I think the most interesting this about this thread is that it brought out the "I'm an individual, and I don't judge people ever!" side in almost everyone. Which is interesting, given that judging someone on their appearance is instinctive and unavoidable, it's how you identify predators, e.g. differentiating between a domestic dog and a wolf.

People just like to pretend they don't do it because life looks a lot better when you're on a high, high horse :)
I know I judge but that's only because I am usually the weird one getting looked at, all through school, starting from day one.

Kindergarten: Just because I had an imagination and acted like an animal a lot people treated me differently and didn't have any friends from school.
1st Grade: I was already judgmental towards people and scared to communicate with other children because of what happened last year.
2nd Grade: New school, whites were the minority.
3rd-5th grade: Picked on for being the weird white girl that didn't like rap and other things that most of the other kids had in common.. was physically and verbally picked on by everyone; especially when these two black kids would throw mulch at me and call me names such as 'Fat white pig."

As you can see, it's things like this that make people become more judgmental towards certain groups..
I am the opposite of the OP and I tend to assume that all "preppy" people and the like are going to hate me for how I act.. and I tend to make jokes towards "preppy", "jock", "popular" because of how they act and dress.
 

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IDBash said:
TelHybrid said:
Sounds like you and the rest of your classmates are judgmental arseholes. Grow up.

Also maybe there's a good reason he keeps to himself... to avoid being some superficial immature brat.

One day when you grow up and finish school you might get a clue about how the world works, instead of your silly little playground politics.
You must still be in college. Because if you really are an IT Tech you know better than most how much of the world still is employing the "silly little playground politics." I have had to take my plugs out, cut my hair, and change the way I dress to get and maintain a job in the "progressive" bay area... It is unfortunate as a lot of ability is passed up in favor of good looks and a kind voice. /rant
I'm done with college. I do freelance IT repair on the side of my day job while this recession is making careers harder to pursue. I also dress how I want and still get work. I also get on with nearly every person I meet because I take the time to see what they're like as a person before I judge. I just lose patience with people being superficial, hence my comment.
 

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Disaster Button said:
TelHybrid said:
Sounds like you and the rest of your classmates are judgmental arseholes. Grow up.

Also maybe there's a good reason he keeps to himself... to avoid being some superficial immature brat.

One day when you grow up and finish school you might get a clue about how the world works, instead of your silly little playground politics.
Responsed like this really make me sad. As they're taking what I said and exploding it into an extreme case and basically scream of someone who was a victim of sometihng similar but not related to this and want to take revenge by being brave on an internet forum. Basically, get over it
No I just have a low tolerance for superficial people, otherwise I give people a chance and talk to them.
 

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TelHybrid said:
Disaster Button said:
TelHybrid said:
Sounds like you and the rest of your classmates are judgmental arseholes. Grow up.

Also maybe there's a good reason he keeps to himself... to avoid being some superficial immature brat.

One day when you grow up and finish school you might get a clue about how the world works, instead of your silly little playground politics.
Responsed like this really make me sad. As they're taking what I said and exploding it into an extreme case and basically scream of someone who was a victim of sometihng similar but not related to this and want to take revenge by being brave on an internet forum. Basically, get over it
No I just have a low tolerance for superficial people, otherwise I give people a chance and talk to them.
Good thing I gave him a chance too rather than just leaving it at my prejudgement then