Poll: Girls love a bad boy

[hailmagus]

I think the Superman, Batman analogy sums it up pretty well. Superman is the guy that women want to marry, but Batman is the guy that women want to date. Does that help?

Surely women want to marry Batman, from what I understand he has a lot of money that could bu his lady pretty shiney thing.
Also I thought girls liked Spiderman after the whole upside down movie-kiss incident.

If you want to go get you some Toby, be my guess. Would seem a little too... nasally... for me. But oddly enough since I am so secure with my sexuality, I would probably go for the Monarch.

"yeah, whatever man, BUT DON'T GO FOR THE REACH-AROUND, BECAUSE THE MONARCH DOESN'T SWING THAT WAY"

 

[LalaLand]

I always wanted to beat a girl who was stupid enough to keep going with people who treat her like shit, and then come to me and complain that their boyfriend is a total asshole, but when they're free suddenly I'm too nice... Well, at least I have a good girlfriend with me right now.

I no longer deal with damaged goods for just that reason my friend. But it just shows to go that men are as stupid as women Cause guys date cows and women date 'bad' boys and everyone ends up hiding bruises one way or the other.

/suckles on blanky

http://xkcd.com/513/

Also, reference 'Soft Rocked' by Johnathon Coulton

 

[The Key of J]

Actually, the way cycle works is that girls are crazy because guys are ass-holes. In turn, guys become ass-holes because they get frustrated at the girl's craziness and become bitter. Should this cycle ever be broken, a vortex will open up and destroy the universe from the inside out. Please for the love of god and all things holy, do not break the cycle! Think of the Children!

 

[scotth266]

Go! us 7 dudes!

More like us 180 dudes right now

But I don't really think that this is true. It's just something overblown by Hollywood.

 

[ryuutchi]

I always wanted to beat a girl who was stupid enough to keep going with people who treat her like shit, and then come to me and complain that their boyfriend is a total asshole, but when they're free suddenly I'm too nice... Well, at least I have a good girlfriend with me right now.

And you wonder why they didn't want to date you afterward...

 

[EgoDeusEst]

82.5% of the people online are dudes. The rest are dudes wishing they were girls.

correction: 10.5% are actually girls, but 82.5% are too scared to believe it o.o

and 7% are guys pretending to be teenage girls (has anyone actually seen a guy pretend to be anyone over the age of 19?)

I think all guys pretend to be older, in order to gain acces to *ahem* certain video-files on the internet.

 

[VitalSigns]

I always wanted to beat a girl who was stupid enough to keep going with people who treat her like shit, and then come to me and complain that their boyfriend is a total asshole, but when they're free suddenly I'm too nice... Well, at least I have a good girlfriend with me right now.

And you wonder why they didn't want to date you afterward...

HAHAHA
WIN

 

[ryuutchi]

http://xkcd.com/513/

Man, I love that strip. The only problem with it is that because it's such well-wrked satire, Nice Guys end up taking it seriously. When every other response is "I totally know how that goes. I'm so that guy" I just have to go beat my head against a wall.

DUDES, You don't want to be that guy. He's a passive-aggressive, manipulative douchebag, who wants her to repay his emotional affection in kind with physical affection and thus tears down any guy who has the ovaries to ask a girl out as a "jerk". Because being nice means being a manipulative tool!

 

[matnatz]

Bad boys don't go for me anyway, like they'd want a fat little geek who games all day

I'd love a wee geek who games all day .

 

[iron codpiece]

Interesting so many people seem to see the opposite of what they are/or are attracted to as pure sleaze.

 

[Citizen.Erased]

I like a guy with a little bit of attitude, but I would seriously never go out with a 'into drugs and fights and woman beating' kind of guy.

It's the look that makes us swoon, but looks aren't everything.
I'll stay with the nice and dorky guys, thank you very much.

 

[BlackJack47]

I'm not at all a bad boy, most bad boys are just up themselves...I'm soft yet have a hard outer shell...I'm like a Kinder Bueno except Sweeter

 

[Axiis]

I'm a nice guy, little bit emotional aswell, because I don't think you should have to hold in how you feel. I'd like to believe I'm average looking. In a relationship for a bit now and everything seems fine, might be different where I am though, but nobody seems to like the whole asshole bad boy thing. Like I said, might just be my area for this but they definately don't get as much attention as just the regular sort of guys.

 

[MusicalFreedom]

[sub]Erm.

What?

Did it ever cross that testosterone-charged mind of yours that those "bad boys" are just as bad as your so-called "pathetic losers"? They want the exact same thing. SEX. Just because they go about it in different ways doesn't make one pathetic or better than the other.

I also detest your generalization that all nice guys are only nice because they think that's the only way they'll get any. That is some straight-up, classic bullshit. I'll fully admit that I'm a wuss. Does that mean I'm only nice because that's the only way I'll ever get laid?

Fuck no.

I act nice because, hey, guess what, I like pleasing people. Making others happy. I'm ignored as a romantic notion by my peers, and I don't particularly mind.

So, in conclusion; don't generalize.[/sub]

do you mind rereading the first sentence of my post where i say i'm talking about Nice Guys (the bad kind) and not nice guys (the other kind) because i swear i put that there
if i didn't, well, my mistake, but i swear i said something like "I'm talking about "Nice Guys", not nice guys (there's a difference)."
or do you not know of the phenomenon of guys who lack social grace whining about a lack of pussy calling themselves Nice Guys

Edit:

On topic, do you believe that some girls go out with Bad boys simply for the fact that they are Bad Boys? Not necessarily because they are more...direct.

It's possible that some girls look for bad boys, but I don't think there's too many of them. At least, not a significant number. Could be that some of them look past the asshole side and see something different, could be that some of them do like assholes, but I think that last one is overstated.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Bad boys don't go for me anyway, like they'd want a fat little geek who games all day

I'd love a wee geek who games all day .

I'm taken
But you can be plan B, yes?

 

[LanaFalls]

as someone put it bad boys are "eye candy", nothing more. i don't want some guy who thinks he's the shit because he's acting all hardcore. i've never been one for bad boys. too many issues to deal with for my liking.

i *heart* my it department working, nerd glasses wearing, mods everything in sight, diy, geek craft loving, random and cheesey gift giving (screaming woot monkey with lights)fiance. and he's cool if i waste the day on the couch gaming, as long as i let him have a turn

 

[meaculpa]

I don't get the appeal of 'bad boys'. They drink, get drugged up, make a few comments they THINK sound 'tough', punch a few people, wash, rinse and repeat. I just don't get it.

Wouldn't you rather have a nice guy who wasn't going to f*ck you about?

 

[ryuutchi]

I don't get the appeal of 'bad boys'. They drink, get drugged up, make a few comments they THINK sound 'tough', punch a few people, wash, rinse and repeat. I just don't get it.

Wouldn't you rather have a nice guy who wasn't going to f*ck you about?

So missing the point here. So missing the point.

 

[meaculpa]

I don't get the appeal of 'bad boys'. They drink, get drugged up, make a few comments they THINK sound 'tough', punch a few people, wash, rinse and repeat. I just don't get it.

Wouldn't you rather have a nice guy who wasn't going to f*ck you about?

So missing the point here. So missing the point.

What's the point then? I know who I'd rather have when presented with a 'bad boy' and a decent bloke lol

 

[ryuutchi]

So missing the point here. So missing the point.

What's the point then? I know who I'd rather have when presented with a 'bad boy' and a decent bloke lol

Well, for one thing, as many of the people on this thread have noted, it's a false dichotomy. Not all "bad boys" are bad-- or are bad in a dangerous or abusive way. Not all "decent guys" are actually good people with which to have a relationship (see the XKCD strip on the previous page for a very good depiction of why some women get skittish around "Nice Guys"). Many people are a mix of both-- it's not unheard of for someone to be both a decent, thoughtful person while having an aesthetic or particular "bad boy" traits.

Alternately, some women enjoy men who are actively violent or otherwise subscribe to the Rebel Without A Cause ethos. Some women have many of those traits themselves. There's no shame in liking that subculture, if that's what floats your boat.

And, of course, many other women find happiness in straightforwardly decent men, who may or may not be particularly "bad" in any particular way. Some women do, in fact prefer Superman or Cyclops to Batman and Wolverine. Stability and gentleness are traits that some women find attractive without leavening.

Subsuming all of this under the concept "women just want guys who fuck them around; those broads are so damn confusing" is reductive, useless, pointless and insulting to women and, to a lesser extent, men.