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Poll: Is this sexist?
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I don't think it was sexist but it was pretty tactless and I can easily see why they thought it was. Just man up and explain the situation and apologise. If you let them know you're position I'm sure they'll forgive you. If they don't empathise with you then you're screwed and they'll think your a sexist pig forever so good luck with that.
The fact that you mentioned that you didn't want a bunch of girls paying for you makes it sexist (particularly if the issue was with the fact that they were female rather than that someone else was paying for you). If you'd said something about not wanting to leech off your friends, it wouldn't be so bad.
If this was just a case of male pride making you act like that, then that makes you a little daft in my books. Life is a lot easier if you give up on that. Sorry if I sound rude if male pride wasn't the reason.
Can people please stop refering to this sort of behaviour as "chivalry", it doesn't mean quite what you lot think it means. There was a documentary a while back called something like "Medival Lives" that gave a good explaination of what it actually ment. I think it was one of the old Monty Python crew presenting it if that helps anyone who's interested find it.
If this was just a case of male pride making you act like that, then that makes you a little daft in my books. Life is a lot easier if you give up on that. Sorry if I sound rude if male pride wasn't the reason.
Can people please stop refering to this sort of behaviour as "chivalry", it doesn't mean quite what you lot think it means. There was a documentary a while back called something like "Medival Lives" that gave a good explaination of what it actually ment. I think it was one of the old Monty Python crew presenting it if that helps anyone who's interested find it.
He didn't politely refuse the offer, he referred to them as "a bunch of girls" in a way that makes the comment quite rude. I'm sure if he had refused politely but decisively, no offense would have ensued.wolfy098 said:
It wasn't neccesarily sexist, unless you said, "Girls shouldn't pay for ANYTHING."
But it was still a rather rude thing. Some girls politely asked to pay for something you wanted to go to, so accept it and pay them back later.
But it was still a rather rude thing. Some girls politely asked to pay for something you wanted to go to, so accept it and pay them back later.
Well, technically it is sexist, since you based your decision on those girl's genders. It's not even the slightest bit offensive, though. I think they were just in a pissy mood.
Some girls seem totally relaxed in the 'sexism' department, whilst others are not so. I've had girls expecting me to pay for things simply because they are a girl, but on the other hand I was almost offended when my ex tried to pay for her share of a meal when I took her out one time. It's just one of those expectations from society that's totally harmless unless someone tries to take it to extremes and get their boyfriend to pay for everything.
If they accuse you of being sexist again, just tell them that the only reason they're saying that is because you're male.
Some girls seem totally relaxed in the 'sexism' department, whilst others are not so. I've had girls expecting me to pay for things simply because they are a girl, but on the other hand I was almost offended when my ex tried to pay for her share of a meal when I took her out one time. It's just one of those expectations from society that's totally harmless unless someone tries to take it to extremes and get their boyfriend to pay for everything.
If they accuse you of being sexist again, just tell them that the only reason they're saying that is because you're male.
I understand your situation. This isn't sexist, they just reacted the way they did because they COULD. However, they probably didn't get the old ,"I'm a gentleman so I can't under any circumstances let you shout me" thing. Definitely a stupid thing to do though.
Yes, because of the way you said it "I'm not letting a bunch of girls pay my admit ion."
It comes across as if they are beneath you to be paying your entry.
Chivalry would have been "Call me old-fashioned, but a woman really shouldn't be paying for a man. It should be the other way around."
It comes across as if they are beneath you to be paying your entry.
Chivalry would have been "Call me old-fashioned, but a woman really shouldn't be paying for a man. It should be the other way around."
Well it is technically sexist but you can also now say that you wouldn't want them paying for a sexist jerk's admission fee and get back to the game. Apologize later. Everybody says rather senseless things from time to time. It isn't like you told them to get to the kitchen, you said you didn't want girls paying for your admission.
In the grand scheme of things, this should be very low on the discerning feminist list of battles to fight. Then again, I tend to know girls who can rib me right back if I say something offside so I tend to have this problem infrequently at best.
In the grand scheme of things, this should be very low on the discerning feminist list of battles to fight. Then again, I tend to know girls who can rib me right back if I say something offside so I tend to have this problem infrequently at best.