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No it isn't.Cheeze_Pavilion said:
My last two girlfriends were fat and not because I just decided to "settle" for them. I actually turned down offers from skinnier girls to pursue them!
Quite a lot of people are genuinely attracted to fat people. Especially the tactile part of it.
Ok, first of all, saying "leaving aside what is right and wrong" then going right ahead and stating your opinion anyways, is kind of ridiculous. It's like me saying to a random person "Leaving aside what I think of you, (by the way I think you're a fucking moron) why do you think that way". It's pretty funny, I must say. But it doesn't accomplish anything besides making your opinion seem insignificantCheeze_Pavilion said:
Anyways, it contradicts your idea because you apparently have this believe that girls only care about looks. Which, simply put, isn't correct. The part that gets confusing is that it's not all black and white, sometimes it's true, sometimes it's not.
Also, I don't even know what the hell you're trying to talk about with this "we pretend it's true out of male guilt". What do we pretend? Why the hell would we all pretend something is true? What the fuck does it have to do with "asserting male privilege"? Care to explain that one?
The reason you're generalization was more false than mine (since all generalizations are true and false at the same time) is because you said that EVERYONE cares about looks whilst the reality is much less inflated and my generalization is a more realistic portrayal.
Also, I have to thank whoever the pointed out that I was generalization. Cause that's a shocker! You know what else is a shocker? Everyone generalizes! (by the way, that was also a generalization).
For what its worth, I'm more or less the same except I'm no longer fat or (in my opinion) bad looking. If you think that's bad, wait until you get to the part where you start to think your friends don't really appreciate you so much as they do your humor.Brimtastic said:
it's all about attitude, the more confident you are, the more girls will find you attractive.
And hell, if that doesn't help, Go off to college in Wisconson, Oklahoma or Texas, home of the most overweight demographics in the US.
If you can't beat it, join it!
But yeah, highschool is caddy and full of drama, once you're out, and off to college, things will get soo much easier. There where a couple big guys at my college, and half of them had a girlfriend the entire way though.
Just find your nitche and relax, it'll all get there eventually.
And hell, if that doesn't help, Go off to college in Wisconson, Oklahoma or Texas, home of the most overweight demographics in the US.
If you can't beat it, join it!
But yeah, highschool is caddy and full of drama, once you're out, and off to college, things will get soo much easier. There where a couple big guys at my college, and half of them had a girlfriend the entire way though.
Just find your nitche and relax, it'll all get there eventually.
I'm not trying to be mean, just pointing out the facts of life.
You can change being fat, exercise and you will feel much better about many things.
You shouldn't expect girls to want you just for your personality any more than you might want a large and/or ugly girl for hers. That isn't fair. Sexual attraction is and always will be a big part of any relationship, unless you are one funny bastard.
The change starts with you. If you want it bad enough, take on the effort of changing your appearance. No doubt you will get a lot more attention with a lot less weight. Your personality will probably end up a little less cynical afterwards.
You can change being fat, exercise and you will feel much better about many things.
You shouldn't expect girls to want you just for your personality any more than you might want a large and/or ugly girl for hers. That isn't fair. Sexual attraction is and always will be a big part of any relationship, unless you are one funny bastard.
The change starts with you. If you want it bad enough, take on the effort of changing your appearance. No doubt you will get a lot more attention with a lot less weight. Your personality will probably end up a little less cynical afterwards.
Obviously I'm talking in general terms and there are always going to be exceptions when it comes to any observations that I might make about men and women. However, if you want to know what people like sexually, look at porn. "Fat girls porn" is a multi-million dollar industry. There is not a single adult bookstore on the planet that doesn't have pictures or video of overweight women being sold in it for a profit. People aren't buying that stuff just to laugh at it, they're buying it because they dig it.Cheeze_Pavilion said:
Of course girls like the physical side too. They do. But that factor in isolation is definitely not quite as important, on average, across the board, with women as it is with men. If it were, Playgirl would have been as successful as Playboy.
By the way, it sounds like this was the first time you tried talking to a girl. You probably sounded all nervous and kept stumbling over your words. You may not think it, but you probably did. Like anything in life it takes practice to get good at it. Think about the first time you learnt to walk: chances are you did not just get up the first time, and start walking perfectly.
You probably started by standing up, and immediately falling back over. The next time you might have gotten a few steps in before falling flat on your face. Follow with so many other falls until you finally managed to start walking on your own. My point is you can't try something once, and expect to be brilliant at it.
Now you may say "Well I talk to girls all the time, so I should be good at it", but talking to a girl casually and talking to a girl you like, and who you want to like you, is a whole different story. Here is the best piece of advice I can give:
Talk to as many girls as you can, even if you have no intention of ever going out with them. First of all, it builds up your confidence talking to women. Second of all, it gets your reputation out there. Women tend to talk with their friends about the guys they meet.
I used to be just like you: worried that no one would like me because I was overweight. Then a friend I meant basically kicked me in the ass, and pointed out the only thing holding me back was my own self-confidence. Some people may tell you looks are important to girls, and they can be at times, but your personality is what really shines through. You're not going to get a girlfriend if you mope around all the time bitching about how you don't have a girlfriend.
You probably started by standing up, and immediately falling back over. The next time you might have gotten a few steps in before falling flat on your face. Follow with so many other falls until you finally managed to start walking on your own. My point is you can't try something once, and expect to be brilliant at it.
Now you may say "Well I talk to girls all the time, so I should be good at it", but talking to a girl casually and talking to a girl you like, and who you want to like you, is a whole different story. Here is the best piece of advice I can give:
Talk to as many girls as you can, even if you have no intention of ever going out with them. First of all, it builds up your confidence talking to women. Second of all, it gets your reputation out there. Women tend to talk with their friends about the guys they meet.
I used to be just like you: worried that no one would like me because I was overweight. Then a friend I meant basically kicked me in the ass, and pointed out the only thing holding me back was my own self-confidence. Some people may tell you looks are important to girls, and they can be at times, but your personality is what really shines through. You're not going to get a girlfriend if you mope around all the time bitching about how you don't have a girlfriend.
Guys don't lay down money on fat girls porn because "oh it's so fascinating". If I want to be fascinated by visuals I can go to an art gallery.Cheeze_Pavilion said:
Bukkake is different because that's a type of activity rather than a type of person so it's not relevant to the topic.
We'll just have to agree to disagree on the rest. Maybe your experience has been different to mine but I certainly know I've had my own point of view proven to me in practice, over and over.
Pretty much, one is descriptive, and one is insulting. There will always be people who will take offence to being called a slut, but Sorry, that's just they way they live and if they can't handle being called it, they can change. Calling someone the N-word is something they cannot choose nor change, and is used only to insult, which makes it worseCheeze_Pavilion said:
kinda sounds like my story. They call me House now. Good for you. We need more cynics after all.