Turning down sex

[arf19]

sex is called love making for a reason so save it for the girl you love

 

[Matronadena]

there will always be a time and place where turning it down " or I should at least say....rescheduling" is appropriate. even in my younger wild days, where I had a guy or a woman on my arm near all the time...SOMETIMES it's just not the time " and NO.. I am NOT one of those women who make a nasty " I have a headache" game out of it....but I'm also far from a bar fly... I have fun and enjoy it greatly ( granted my partner was skilled enough which now that I settled down an married someone with amazing skill) but it still boils down to " there is a time and place for everything.. and a reason behind it. and you know.. if your just not feeling it at the time....nothing wrong with that, that's normal.

trust me I have kids now, I constantly have to reschedule...





and on a side note I wonder... and please, don't think I mean this in an insulting manor by any means, more of a basic query.

for everyone saying it's odd, or not right, or " get all the sex you can" etc.. how many are;

A: virgins ( of any age and gender )

B: under the age of 25

C: married with kids

 

[IronDuke]

Hmm I turned down sex yesterday, and it made me feel like rubbish I just started going out with this bird a few days ago, and we'd already done the penis-vagina sex (reference to the greatest show in the world, +5 to whoever gets it) a few times , but I just felt like it was going a bit fast.

This is strange for me, since I normally go all out to get laid and either end up going too fast into things or getting told by the girl that "I'm not that easy", and I didn't want that to happen again and screw it all up. Either I'm a little more mature, or more likely I'm a complete fool. So I actually felt like talking and just making out instead, which wasn't so bad.

 

[Programmed_For_Damage]

There have been a few times I should have turned down sex and didn't (I wasn't into the person or what we were doing at the time) and I kind of regret it.
There's nothing wrong with turning down sex; last time I checked it wasn't a compulsory activity.

 

[Firia]

I've given up sex before because I didn't want any.

Now THAT is weird.

Well, I'm not a hormone driven male. I know some ex's that would say, "no sex tonight," I'd be relieved.

 

[Khadath]

I just turned down sex.
is that wierd.
the girl is smoking hot and what not great personality.
but theres someone else im aiming for.
and i believe turning down sex is a hard thing to do when the mans in a dry season...
anyone else have problems doing this?


EDIT: This is aimed toward both the female and male community of the escapist, and im hoping everyone can be mature about this

No its not weird, I do it all the time and to be honest I find it to be a greater boost to my self esteem turning down these gal's who seem to think they can have whoever and whatever they want and that's not even leading them on for a bit, more just telling them to go away I'm not interested.

Also I'm kinda in the same position as you, I'd rather have the gal I love than 100 others.

 

[Some bullets]

It not weird to want something to have meaning or none at all.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Here's a tip, OP. I used to be a shut-in. It did terrible things to my sex drive that I'm still recovering from.

It was to the point where I was going to parties, getting offers of threesomes with very attractive goth chicks, and turning them down.

I'm slowly turning that around. How? I've recently landed a job in a construction firm. I work twelve-hour shifts doing hard manual labor. And you know what? It's kick-started my libido.

Constant physical activity, my friend. It will do wonders for you, and your sex drive. And believe me, having a raging sex drive is far from a burden.

EDIT: I'd like to quickly cover my ass by pointing out that I am by no means a man-whore. I'll still turn down advances by the opposite sex for the most petty reasons imaginable. When there is an actual desire, but still choose not to engage, that when it becomes self-control.

 

[vampirekid.13]

no, its not weird.


i turn it down a lot, i have like no sex drive, ill do it if the girls wants to, but its never on my to do list, or on my "i care about" list.

 

[SirMax]

I turned down sex once. The one and only time in my life that it has been offered, but there ya go. I laid it out straight- I said that I was very flattered, and that my decision certainly wasn't based on not thinking that they were attractive. I'm just not into dudes.

-Nick

Heh. that was rather witty.

Anyway, on the actual topic, it's not weird under normal conditions. The only way it would be weird is if you wanted to have sex with this girl, she wanted to have sex with you, you could see the relationship working out fine and being happy with it, but you turned it down for say, chasing after a porn star. Other than that, sex isn't some magic item to be snatched as soon as it comes into view, so turning it down is reasonable enough if you have a good enough reason to do so.

 

[WilliamWhite1]

No.

I've been without sex for a good twenty years. It's not that big a deal.

 

[irishdelinquent]

Part of me, the pathetically hopeless romantic side of me, is proud of you for turning down a sure thing in favour of the one you care about.

Another part of me, the Asshole Within, wants to mock you until I can't breathe anymore for making the stupidest decision possible.

Yet another part of me, the realistic optimist, questions why you couldn'tve slept with the girl you turned down, and still gone after the one you like.

Another part of me still, the insatiable lecherous bastard, wants to know the name and address of the woman you turned down....I will drive 11,000 miles per hour to her house to take your place!

 

[SharPhoe]

My god, turning down casual sex causes people to wonder if they're weird or not. I hate everyone and everything.

Blame our current sex-but-no-love generation for that. Don't worry, though, I'm with you. I'd turn it down in a heartbeat if it wouldn't mean a damn thing.

 

[ExaltedK9]

My god, turning down casual sex causes people to wonder if they're weird or not. I hate everyone and everything.

Blame our current sex-but-no-love generation for that. Don't worry, though, I'm with you. I'd turn it down in a heartbeat if it wouldn't mean a damn thing.

Agreed, no point in just whoreing yourself around, if anybody off the streets walks up to you, and prposes sex, then they are just desperate sluty and most likely STD riddled. You made the right decision.

 

[supermaster1337]

I just turned down sex.
is that wierd.
the girl is smoking hot and what not great personality.
but theres someone else im aiming for.
and i believe turning down sex is a hard thing to do when the mans in a dry season...
anyone else have problems doing this?


EDIT: This is aimed toward both the female and male community of the escapist, and im hoping everyone can be mature about this

i thinks its normal. i cant say i have done it nor that i have had sex but it seems to me that you just care more than just sex and that is good.

 

[reincarN8ed]

Sex complicates things. Im "no sex before marriage" guy, but i do believe in "no sex before love." Otherwise sex will only drive them away.

EDIT: also, why r u coming on HERE to talk about this?! like 98% of these guys(myself included) have never even come close! (jk, love you guys!)

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

Broke up with my girlfriend in February. Now there's no sex for me in the foreseeable future. Damn, that's depressing.

Some things are more important than sex. Like.... um....

Damn it.

 

[DeleteMe1112311]

Gotta go with your gut. Probably had an STD or something, the sort of thing that you would not have known unless you actually had sex with her. Just trust yourself and know that you made the right decision.

That being said, you have a stronger will then I....at least when it comes to women.